EXPERIENCE THE DIFFERENCE

Your provider only cares about you as much as they care about themselves.

And let me tell you that I CARE A LOT! :)

This means that everything I do and offer is carefully curated and meticulously maintained.

These are just a few of the extras that I think you will appreciate:

1. Scents:

   From the moment you walk in you will overtaken by the relaxing scents that fill the air. I have a nose like an animal so high-quality, luxury scents are very important to me. I use only inscence from resin that I have personally cultivated during my hikes. I use only sage bundles that I have picked and compiled myself. I use only organic essential oils from the most reputable companies. And I use only candles that use natural and non-synthetic fragrances.

2. Sheets:

   All of my sheets are made from organic cotton and are always white. I only use white linens so that after every session they can be washed with bleach and hot water. I always use organic, fragrance free laundry and soap products but bleach is the only thing I do not skimp on. Sanitation is important to me and I have found that even the most senstavie people do not have an issue with a little bleach.

   Be careful trusting places that use dark colored sheets. Often times they are trying to avoid doing laundry and reuse their sheets multiple times. Rest assured that my sheets are always fresh for you and are replenshed with new stock every few months.

3. Oils:

   Massage oils are often called Carrier Oils. They are called this becuase they are infused with energy and that energy travels from another source, into your energy field. This is why the oil and the energy of the provider are one of the most important aspects of a powerful experience. In all of my sessions I serve as a Hollow Bone allowing the exact energy you need to funnel through me and carry into you via the Carrier Oil.

   Back in the day I used the typical big jug of oil most providers use. Then I read the ingredients. First ingredient being Canola oil. Eh, YUCK! Not on my body and not for my men! Now I import all of my organic oils directly from Dehli, India.

   I personally mix all of my oils in a sacred ritual of alchemy. Currently my favoirte massage oil is a mix of Jojoba oil, Rose Hip oil and Pomegranate oil. Learn more about my oil achemy HERE.

4. Products:

   My washroom is stocked full of the best products needed to leave you feeling clean and refreshed. From the fragrance-free shower wipes to the organic beverages and Fiji water, your body will know it is loved!

5. Me:

   Have you heard the saying, “You get what you pay for”? Well it is true isn’t it. If you are trying to pay for a cheap experience, you will most likely get a cheap experience. My services may be more on the high-end of the price scale but you will feel the difference.

   I am a high-demand, low-service provider which means I only see a few clients per week and never book back-to-back with short turn over times. This allows me to create a truly luxurious experience for you that will leave you feeling like the King that you are!

Now, are you ready to experience the difference?

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Why a Professional Office is Better Than an Apartment

Where you go to have a luxurious ecstatic experience matters!

Everything matters from parking, to how you feel when you walk in, to the quality of the sheets on the massage table.

All of these things have to be considered when you make a choice in professional Providers.

For years it has been standard practice to rent out an apartment and do business from there. This was all I knew for many years.

But as I was gearing up to find a new space for my business, I talked to several amazing women who were working out of an office building and I thought, well why not!?

And now I just love having an office and will never go back to apartment life!

Let me tell you why I love my office so much!

1. Ample parking- Never worry about looking for street parking. Never park in an apartment garage. Never park in front of a house. Parking is often the first point of anxiety for clients. They can have fear of being questioned if someone were to see them. “Why were you parked in front of that apartment building?” or “Why were you seen coming out of that house?” No one wants to face those questions. At my office, there is ample parking in the lot for all of the building guests.

2. Legitatmate Business- When you come to see me, you are coming to a legitate business, seeing a professional practioner. No worries about questions. You are entereing a professional building that is full of other healing businesses and you always feel like you are in the right place! You are coming for professional bodywork and everyone loves a man that practices self-care!

3. No shower- This is the one that can deter people and was something I worried about the most. But let me tell you, it is actually great not having a shower. When you book a 60 minute session with other women, they often use the shower as an excuse to have less time with you. They insist that you take a shower and then use that as billable time. And they love when you take a shower before and after a session. In that case you would have 10 minutes to shower before, 10 minutes after and at the most you would get 30 minutes of bodywork. In my practice, we have a brief check in and then I try to give you the most of the time you booked.

4. Washroom- I may not have a shower but I do have a beautiful washroom. This washroom is complete with everything you need to freshen up. Who needs a shower when you can use a handy shower wipe and be on your way?

5. Multiple rooms- My office is complete with multiple rooms which allows you to have a unique experience depending on your mood. Feeling like you want a luxurious, intimate and relaxed expereince? Let’s head into the Thai Mat room. Feeling like you want an exhilerating, erotic and unique exerpeince? Let’s head into Milking Table room. The choice is yours! *All first time sessions are held in the Thai Mat room. Existing clients can choose add-ons or milking table expereinces.

What more could you ask for!? If you have never booked with a professional in an office setting, what are you waiting for? I promise you will love it and I will do everything I can to make you feel safe, comfortable and right at home.

SOLO TANTRA- Do I need a partner? Awakening the Divine Feminine.

Interview with Ravyn Ryder by The Soul Doctor, Rebecca Dettman 

TOPICS COVERED:

►The science of Tantra-Osho

►Invitation to get deeper into breath, consciousness, presence and sacredness

►What is tantra? The ancient art of love making

►Tantra covers yoga, astrology, dance, geometry, crystals and many other things

►The gateway-The Yoni

►Lovemaking should be a meditation

►First thing to master-the ability to make love to ourselves

►Finding a relationship between you and your energy system

► Upper and lower chakras

►Solo Tantra

►Medibation- Meditation + Masturbation

►Removing stimuli and need for porn

►Becoming present with your body

►Self practices

►Amrita- Female ejaculation

►What is tantra-A system, a philosophy and a technology

►Comes from: Tibetan Buddhism, Tarot, Taosim, kabbalah, Ancient Egyptian Cults, Christanity, Vedas, Upanishads, Tattvas, Gunas, Lingas, Kundalini, Nadis, Chakras

►Shiva and Shakti energy, Masculine and Feminine, Yang and Yin

►Stripping layer that cover our true selves

►Yab-Yum practice

►Full body connection-Turning off the monkey chatter

►Being vulnerable in front of a partner

►Trusting a partner to see you

►Men need women but women do not need men

►Women-the goddess incarnate, mother earth, cosmic birth, the mystery of God here on earth in human form, wild essence of pure cosmic energy, birth the god in every man

►Serpents and sex-snake energy

►Man’s innate knowing-knows he has no real way of experiencing pure yin energy, the mystery of the cosmos except through a woman

►Woman-She must be wild, passionate and untamed because it is her nature as an embodiment of power. Manifestation of maya naturally containing endless secrets. 

►Becoming the spiritual grade of the man you sleep with- we must be protective gate-keepers of our yonis

►Perfect Tantric balance

Rebecca Dettman: www.SoulDoctorShow.com

How Routines Create a Better Sex Life

I have never considered myself a morning person. In fact, I would often refer to those first daylight hours as my ‘mourning.’ Now I can say, thankfully that I am no longer a ‘mourning’ person! I credit my new love of mornings simply to: A commitment to a planned ROUTINE.

“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!” Benjamin franklin

When the brain is tired, weak, or just plain out of it, it should not be responsible for making rational decisions. Putting routines and plans into place takes the weak decision making process out of the mix. As all other mammal species we still carry many animalistic traits within our being. We crave direction, goals, rewards and consequences. But unlike most trained animals, we are capable of training ourselves. We can put into place simple routines, rewards and consequences (most consequences come as a result of poor actions, not actual discipline) that can positively set up our day... month... year... life!

“Perhaps our greatest distinction as a species is our capacity, unique among animals, to make counter-evolutionary choices.”Jared Diamond, Why Is Sex Fun? The Evolution of Human Sexuality

A routine is essentially a goal. One that, once achieved, can lead to a host of future goals that can shape the success of your life and positively impact those around you. But a morning routine doesn’t just start the moment you wake up. No good morning routine is complete without a corresponding evening routine. Setting up a plan for the morning by going to sleep in a healthy productive fashion is essential for the follow-through of your morning routine.

“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.”~Tony Robbins

What happens when you DO NOT have a morning routine?

You might go out and have a few drinks. You get to bed later than usual. You would like to go to the gym but since you are going to bed late, ‘you will see how you feel in the morning,’ which as we know, almost always ends up being a no. You wake up groggy and decide that the snooze button is more important than the health of your body. Your foggy and tired brain tells you to just leave the house and pick up a coffee and bagel on the way to work. Now you are over-caffeinated, under-hydrated and although you are trying to rationalize that going out and having fun is a great part of life, you are silently criticizing yourself for not going to the gym, for eating shitty and for falling into the trap of “average.” You then go home to your partner feeling like a loser after having beat yourself up for most of the day due to your lack of willpower. You do not feel sexy, you do not feel motivated, and in no way do you feel like having animalistic, passionate, mind-blowing sex!

If you really think about it, hitting the snooze button in the morning doesn’t even make sense. It’s like saying, 'I hate getting up in the morning—so I do it over… and over… and over again.' – Demetrius Martin

Unfortunately when you make average decisions you get average results. The average person will chose to pick up a beer instead of a book. The average person will chose to watch TV when they get home instead of make love to their partner. The average person will go out to eat instead of making a healthy lunch. The average person will settle for average!

“If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten.”~Tony Robbins

Failure is a part of success. This is the difference between an average person and a successful person. The average person is often too afraid of failure to ever get to success. To succeed at  failure is a closer step to success. It can take many failure to get to an accomplishment of a steady routine. I know for myself, my monkey demon mind won many times before I finally told it to shut the fuck up. But once you finally take hold of the reins, one success turns into another, turns into another, turns into every dream you have becoming a reality.

Success consists of going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm. – Winston Churchill

But remember that perfection is not what we are striving for here! We are only human and the constant continuation of anything will most certainly lead to utter boredom! So do not be hard on yourself if you just don’t feel like it one day. It certainly can be nourishing for the soul to occasionally sleep in, snuggle up and binge on some Netflix, or indulge on a delicious treat. Focus on what you mostly do, not on what you sometimes do!

How does this relate to sex?

The way you feel about yourself directly relates to the way you show up in the bedroom. When are you most likely in the mood for long, sensual, intimate love-making?  I’m not talking about the roll-on top quickie. I’m talking about the type of sex that leaves you drenched, sore, connected, and completely satisfied. Is it after you downed 2 beers and 3 pieces of pizza or is if after you had a fulfilling successful day, ate healthy and just got done at the gym? We all know the answer. No need to be redundant.

“The behavior of a human being in sexual matters is often a prototype for the whole of his other modes of reaction in life.”~Sigmund Freud, Sexuality and the Psychology of Love

What happens when you DO have a morning routine?

You come home from work with a goal to not turn on the TV, to not waste time on social media, and to be present with yourself and those around you. You make a healthy dinner and create a calm atmosphere for the rest of the evening. Maybe you take some time to work on an artistic project that you have been putting off. Maybe you practice an instrument that you have been wanting to learn. Maybe you take some time to read to your kids or help them with their homework. Maybe you draw your spouse a bath and give them a relaxing a massage. You finish the night by giving your body some self love with whatever hygienic night time rituals you have. You remove all electronics from the bedroom, dive into a book or mediation and fall into a deep, relaxing, restorative sleep. You then wake completely refreshed. You make your bed, you wash your face and brush your teeth, you stretch and complete a few sun salutations and then proceed to follow whatever routine you have committed to. Write this routine down. Tell somebody else so that you can be accountable. What will follow? A happy day, a happy wife, a happy life! The previous evening was relaxing and possibly a prep for a future evening of erotic, sensual or downright raunchy fornication! Winning!

“Your first ritual that you do during the day is the highest leveraged ritual, by far, because it has the effect of setting your mind, and setting the context, for the rest of your day.” – Eben Pagan

So what does my morning routine consist of?

I have to remember that I can be completely selfish in my morning routine as I have absolutely no responsibility to children, pets or a spouse. So I understand that much of what my routine consists of may not be a possibility for most. It is not meant to be emulated, just to simply take note of. So here it is:

In the evening, I try to be home and done with work and social activities by 8pm. I make sure my day consists of fulfilling, healthy, whole foods. I turn my phone off at 9pm and put it in a drawer. I spend the rest of the evening reading, doing self-massage, medibating, practicing a trade, stretching my body, dabbling in the esoteric arts, or other weird shit that is better left unsaid! I go to sleep by 11:30pm. I set an old fashion alarm clock, since all electronics are left out of my room, and wake by 7:30am. I do not snooze and write in a dream journal as soon as my eyes open and I can recall the subconscious mind’s evening events. Then I spend at least an hour doing yoga or meditating and commit to not looking at my phone until after such activities are complete. I answer some emails, texts, messages and schedule my day. I proceed with breakfast and showering. Then I’m off to my studio in preparation for a day of beautifully channeled erotic magick!

The world is changed by your example, not by your opinion. – Paulo Coelho

The success of your life choices lead to an ecstatic sex life AND an ecstatic sex life leads to successful life choices. Sex is often not talked about by motivational speakers. It is a shadow that stays hidden, only to be revealed in the bedroom. But sex is life and a successful life begins and ends with the way we show up intimately with others as well as ourselves. How will you show up and how committed can you be to making the choices that make you a lion and not a sheep, in and out of the bedroom!?

Sex lies at the root of life, and we can never learn to reverence life until we know how to understand sex. Havelock Ellis